However, when it came time to cut it off or have a relationship, I cut it off.
Reconsidering my motivations for those decisions now, I recognize one that dominated the others: despite my attraction for those women at the time, I didn't want to look around myself ten years later and see a hotter, younger girl - closer to my own age - and think "I could have been with a girl like that instead." When my wife starts aging, I want the other girls I could have had (i.e.
“Nobody wants to go back to the 1950s, we just want to be treated with respect.” But there are downsides to large age disparities, and women in particular sacrifice a great deal when they make this choice.
Child-bearing and rearing becomes complicated, not to mention the potential for earlier onset of age-related medical challenges, as well as confronting constant social stigma.
would have you believe, is evolving into an elaborate charade of deception: Everybody is petrified of giving someone the “wrong idea.” Men are impolite to the point of viciousness to ensure that the women they just hooked up with understand they don’t want a relationship.
Women “self-objectify” in profile pictures to get men interested, renouncing the “wrong idea” that they might want something more than a one-night stand.
It’s all pretty inconceivable in the long term, and yet it’s happening all the same.
That’s how badly women want to escape the Tinderverse.
There have never been more advantages to relationships with older men, precisely because Tinder and its ilk have made dating feel impossible to those of us who don’t want to participate in the battle of who-cares-less.
I think the women who become ugliest due to age are the ones that recognize they are getting older, wrongly assume that they are no longer beautiful, and therefore stop their gym membership, cut their hair short and give up.
Some women go instead to the opposite extreme, getting plastic surgery or increasing their make up until they over-compensate.
Neither of these is the appropriate or confident response to the onset of aging (in the same way that wearing a toupee is a poor response to the onset of male baldness, for example).
An acceptance of reality is the best response, and the reality is not nearly as bad as so many women believe.