However, I’ve witnessed case after case in which those marriages were saved, sometimes even after the divorce took place.
Maybe the paramour found a way to get to him or her, rekindled the passion and convinced your spouse that he or she will never be happy without them.They seek any counsel, from Christians or otherwise, that empathizes with their position and gives any encouragement whatsoever. It’s your choice, of course, and you can tell your straying spouse to leave and never return.Or, if he or she is a good person involved in a bad situation, you can fight to save your marriage.It makes you less attractive and intensifies whatever justification he or she has mentally made that allows leaving you. Make it clear that while you would like to save the marriage, your life will go on and you will prosper if they don’t come back. When a person believes that you are there no matter what they do, they have no compulsion to do right. Other people in your life who care about you will still care about you. And, believe it or not, it often helps bring the spouse back, though you cannot do it for only that reason.When they see that you can live happily without them, you become more attractive. No matter how much you love your spouse, life can go on and be good if he or she leaves you. When you are sure that your spouse is involved in something, or with someone, that is wrong, arrange a group to do an intervention.